I decided to turn my “Plus-Size Stereotypes” Post into a YT video! Make sure y’all watch & Share! Like, Comment, & Subscribe to the Plus Passion Youtube Channel as well to stay up to date!
LETS GET INTO THE FIT!
- TOP (FASHION NOVA): Louise V Neck – White $27.99
- CROP PUFFER (SHEIN): Plus Zip Up Drawstring Crop Puffer Coat – Olive $23.91
- BOTTOMS (FASHION NOVA): Jodie High Rise Flare Jeans – Light Blue Wash $27.99
- SHOES (UGG): Bailey Button II – Chestnut $180.00
- PURSE (GUCCI): Neo Vintage GG Supreme Messenger Bag $1,200
More outfit inspo posts coming soon!! 🤍
- Filming a New YT video Saturday! 🎥
- Will be posting consistently on Plus Passion every Monday & Wednesday! 📝
- I will try to have YT videos for y’all weekly coming out every Friday, but if not, they will be bi-weekly. 📆
More to come… 👀
Hey, y’all! It’s finally 2022! Chile, where has the time gone? I honestly can’t even believe it. 2021 was definitely a year of many ups & downs for myself and for all of us as well. Plus Passion was born & it was honestly my most prized accomplishment of the year because we can only go up from here! New, CONSISTENT, content coming soon & more YT videos OTW. I’m going to start transferring my content on this site into video topics. I will still post them here for you guys to read, but I’m just going to start going more in-depth on my YT and making my posts shorter on here. I also want to hear from y’all more this year! I have comments enabled on my site for a reason, I want to hear from y’all on how to improve the content, what days I should post, what topics you guys want me to highlight, etc. I wanna give the people what they want! LOL Constructive feedback is SO welcomed! I hope everyone is enjoying the first few days of the new year! I’ll check back in with y’all on Thursday & announce when the next video will be released and what days I’ll be posting on Youtube & more!
Much Love 🤍
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Let’s discuss the new age of dating and relationships. Whether it be a swipe & match on a dating app or you met your person at the local grocery store, there are always stigmas and rules when it comes to dating and during the process of a man courting you. I want to discuss one that was recently brought to my attention. The timeline of when you should start dressing comfortably/down or “raggedy” in front of someone you’re dating, whether it be during the process of courting or after and vice versa. Now, I know that this has been a topic of discussion in the media before, but I wanted to talk about different perspectives and share my opinion about what I think regarding this “timeline”.
According to Sleep News, over 1/2 of men relax their physical appearance after 6 months, compared to just 1/4 of women. Most women like to keep up a pristine appearance for at least the first year of a new relationship. Instead of this marking a turning point in couples’ romance levels, it would actually signify timescales when both partners begin to relax and be themselves. Perhaps revealing the ‘real’ you – in sweatpants, a frumpy sweatshirt, and faded shorts – marks the juncture when the initial highs of falling in love die down, but the fires of true love are first lit.
“Put lipstick on even when you go jogging!” admonished “The Rules,” the best-selling, unabashedly old-fashioned dating guide first published in 1995. In a 2012 edition of the book, authors Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider encouraged women to dress up for dates and even when not on dates. They wrote, “If you walk around in any old clothes on the theory that what counts is only what’s inside, not your outside, think again! Men like women who wear fashionable, sexy clothes in bright colors.” Millions of women have followed the Rules over the years, and some still post triumphant tales of their engagements, and in one case, a photo of her ring, to the review sections of the books’ Amazon pages. Although “The Rules” has often been criticized for its retrograde strategies, the concept of looking somewhat polished for dates and thereafter is widely accepted. I mean, duh why wouldn’t it be? It’s literally what we are conditioned to do! but, the latest buzzword in online dating is “authenticity,” and with that comes a casual new dress code. Let’s get into it!
In the age of online dating, this often manifests as glamorous profile photos, and dresses, and blowouts for dates. But some women are trying the opposite tack. There seems to be a new rule circulating: Dress down—WAY DOWN—to make a more forthright first impression. Try a no-makeup profile photo for dating apps or show up for a date in sweats.
Courtesy of THE WALL STREET JOURNAL, I want to tell y’all the story of Amy Nobile.
When Amy Nobile’s marriage fell apart in 2018 after twenty years, she suddenly became a 49-year-old single mom to two teenagers navigating the dating scene in New York City. Ms. Nobile, who has co-authored four self-help books, began online dating, going on as many as four to six dates on some days with men she met through apps. Although she was mostly enjoying herself, the physical trappings of these dates felt oppressive. Why spend hundreds of dollars and precious time to dress up and get your hair and makeup done, just to slug wine during dates (some of which she termed “hellish”) with random fellas from Bumble? Plus, were they even seeing the real Amy? And so she “cracked the code” as she puts it, by coming to dates in athleisure, applying minimal makeup and minimal effort. Ms. Nobile found her new partner using this no-frills approach three years ago. She explained, “When I met Brett, it was at Joe & the Juice on the Upper East Side and I was in Lululemons and, you know, I felt comfortable.”
Ms. Nobile launched a dating coaching business, ‘Love, Amy,’ in 2019 to help other people find love. And one of her most unorthodox strategies was born out of her own experience. For the first meeting with a match, she advises clients to come straight from a workout (or the couch), barefaced, and without artifice. She calls it a “mini screener date”: 30 to 45 minutes for coffee or an early drink. The idea is to economize your time, money, and effort, but also to manage expectations. “It’s low stakes and you’re in charge,” said Ms. Nobile. She said that the “casual vibe” meant that “you can feel grounded and you can feel authentic to you.”
Great story, right? Ms. Nobile obtained a partner solely by being the only thing she knew how to be…herself. Now, I want to talk about another woman that is similar to Ms. Nobile, Julie Samuel. A 32-year-old woman, working as a recruiter and living the single life in New York City. She used to dress up in heels and nice jeans for fancy-drinks dates. But then last year she consulted with Ms. Nobile, who told her, “You’re not meeting people who want to get to know you—they’re getting to know this perfect version of you.” Ms. Samuel took the advice to dress down and immediately saw its wisdom. She said it helped her “weed people out faster” by breaking down any walls and getting to know them in their normal state. She didn’t dress up for her current partner until four months after they began dating when they attended a wedding together. She remembers, “I turned to him and said, ‘This is totally the opposite of every other relationship I’ve been in. The first time you’re seeing me dressed up is when you already love me.” Ms. Samuel mused that the “Love, Amy” approach was focused on “values.”
“If you want someone to love you just as you are in your purest raw form then that’s what you present.” If your purest raw form wears sweatpants instead of miniskirts, by all means let her out.Amy Nobile
What do y’all think? How soon is “too soon” when you begin to dress “down” around a man? And do you agree with the backwards approach of dressing down during the courting process and then dressing up once the man is secure? Let me know! 🤍
Since I’m currently in school obtaining my Bachelors & I major in Media Communications, I wanted to let you guys in on my journey a bit! Every chance I get, I try to incorporate PLUS PASSION into an assignment now! LOL. This week’s assignment was based on studying the difference between Visceral, Behavioral, & Reflective Design and how they work together to create the most eye-catching imagery in the media.
Visceral Design: Calls upon our instinctive reactions toward social status, sex appeal, danger avoidance, and fundamental survival needs.
Behavioral Design: Addresses our immediate practical needs, focusing on innovative features, ease of use, and “must-have qualities” of a product.
Reflective Design: Calls upon rational thought and cultural standards in order to emphasize long-term benefits.
A portion of our assignment was to create a mood board that would appeal to all aspects of design and create and pull images that will invoke emotion. I decided a make my board about my ideas and content for PLUS PASSION. The way I want to expand & how it makes me feel when I share things with you guys. I can’t wait for y’all to see what’s to come! It’s going to be amazing!
I decided to make today’s post into more of a discussion. I’m posting a couple of questions & I want to hear y’all’s opinions and what y’all think! I speak my mind, my opinions, and my truth ALWAYS, but in order for me to be fully engaged, I need to hear from my audience. So, here it goes!
I want to hear opinions & debate so that I can respond for Thursday’s blog post and open up conversation!! 🤍
SN: I will be doing a mukbang with some friends on Saturday & it will be posted next week on the PLUS PASSION site 👀 Follow me on IG: @pluspassiont or my main page @tayslayway to send in questions you’d like to have answered about anything! It can be questions for me & about me, for advice, for my friends, for anything y’all! seriously! Let’s chat and eat it up! LOL 🍱
And not just plus size women, men as well. We're getting into how plus women and more specifically plus black women, are perceived in the eyes of social media and discussing how that can hinder our whole mission of inclusivity.
The creation of social media has become a blessing and a curse. In all reality, it has become the leading cause of no one being able to mind their business and allows bigotry and ignorance to spew by people providing unwanted opinions at people they don’t even personally know and have never seen in real life. Despite these issues, it has also become one of the most helpful forms of exposure and financial revenue that we’ve seen to date. I mean Instagram models, Youtubers, Twitter gurus, there is something for everyone in the land of social media. I wanted to talk about a topic today that isn’t talked about enough for me and that’s the relationship social media has when it comes to the plus-size community, for men and women.
When I think about the relationship and the impact social media has on the plus community as a whole, I think about the positives and how our bodies are now more socially accepted but I also think about how brands along with social media have programmed plus-size women to essentially dislike themselves to put it plainly. Although plus representation is appreciated and amazing to see, the repeated use of models on the smaller end of the plus-size scale has women somewhat shook when they see a woman that looks like them come down their timeline. Big stomachs, thighs, hips, breasts, arms, and faces are a rarity and the sooner we normalize the use of all body types whether it be on social media or just advertising in general, the sooner we can tackle the subject of acceptance and move the hell on with our lives! 🙂
It may be hard to believe y’all, but we can find joy online by minding the business that pays us. If there is nothing nice to say, then don’t say anything at all. Didn’t y’all parents teach you that? Or your granny? Like come on! At what point did our sense fly out the window that we think we can just talk to anyone any type of way?? It’s getting ridiculous and that brings me to another thought I had while I was planning this topic to talk about with y’all…The war or debate between plus-size women & “curvy” women. Let’s talk about it because social media plays a huge part in the perception and how a woman’s body type is defined. I see comments all the time under plus women’s pictures of people calling her “thick” and some hating ass person comes along and says “that ain’t thick that’s fat or that’s obese” honestly shut the f*** up. I am so serious, like that gets on my nerves. Yall know exactly what I’m talking about too! Let’s keep it a stack, a thou, a billiwow💰, like let’s get honest. We live in a world where the media and industry still treats plus size as an anomaly- poking at it because it looks cool, but afraid to be the first one to embrace it out of fear of acceptance from their peers. Recently, I’ve seen a good handful of influencers portraying certain types of curves as being sexier than others. We consistently see pictures of curvy women with small waists and large hips being presented as “plus-size perfection.” And my thing is, I don’t want women who don’t have an hourglass figure to feel any less beautiful. It’s almost like the plus-size positivity movement is edging away from including all plus-size women in favor of celebrating only a certain kind of curvy woman and it pisses me off.
We need to stick together because we’re stronger as one. All bodies are different, and all bodies deserve to be celebrated. I’ve preached this time and time again! I think what upsets me the most is that some people do not consider plus-size and curvy the same thing, now granted I understand why people view them as different but realistically, curvy is a sub-category for being plus size. I’m simply disputing the people who believe that one is more desirable than the other. When thinking of the term “curvy” and what it means to a woman, the common misconception is that a curvy woman may (emphasis on MAY) have an hourglass figure, so the thin waist, big booty, and in many cases nice-sized breasts. Now stay with me, A curvy woman is not always overweight, right? It just depends on who is using the term, because many plus-size women prefer to use this term to describe themselves and people tend to snatch it away and replace it with words with a more negative connotation like fat or big, even if they don’t have that specific figure. So don’t let the first definition throw you off. The definition of plus-size really depends on who you ask. Some people say it’s sizes 6 or 8 and up (crazy, right?) or 12 or 14 and up, depending on where you live & just how you perceive people. But Its true definition describes above-average clothing sizes, NOT a female body type, it really has nothing to do with it but again, a term that society latched onto.
Some people believe plus-size women are not as desirable as curvy women. So my question is, can the curvy designation be considered a new fad? Now let’s get into some truth for a sec, a lot of curvy women disassociate themselves from the plus-size movement. It’s common. Some curvy women love all this newfound attention but are offended by being called plus-size because they believe it to have negative connotations. There are lots of types of bigger-bodied women, and one type should not be seen as more desirable than the other. The main contribution to the curvy-craze are women who have procedures done such as Liposuction or a BBL. I am not knocking that decision or body modification AT ALL, let me be abundantly clear. Please do whatever you feel comfortable doing to your body because it is indeed YOUR body. I’m just addressing the subject at hand that women of all races and ethnicities are paying surgeons to get curvy hips, fat asses, and big breasts that are way larger than what they normally would carry, so they help to contribute to the newfound issue of how curvy women are being defined. In short, Natural bodies have become out of the norm, and they’re essentially going extinct. And I mean it’s unfortunate, but it’s true!
I’m not sure how we got to this point because back in the day, nobody wanted a big butt, but times are changing & shit is evolving! Now, another point I wanted to make is the fact that social media has created a really comfortable situation for internet trolls and keyboard crazies who just got the balls to talk down to people behind a screen and never to their face. For example, if you look at an IG model’s comments section vs. say… In Lizzo’s comment section, you’ll find a plethora of positive comments, but the difference between the 2 is although the IG model might get talked a little shit about, her body is mostly seen as socially acceptable and aesthetically pleasing, while Lizzo on the other hand gets comments about her weight, accusations about her health, her cellulite, her shape, her clothes, essentially just being completely picked apart. Not saying this doesn’t happen to everyone, but I mean come on baby let’s be realistic, it is a shit show in a fat woman’s comments. Lizzo has never called herself curvy. She is considered plus-size. She’s amazing, beautiful, and talented! and she’s worthy and valuable just like everybody else, but instead, because she shows more of herself just like she would if she was thinner, it doesn’t sit right with y’all? Cry me a freakin river honestly! She’s confident and secure within herself AND she knows what pisses y’all off and gets people all riled up! Y’all fall for it every time! But I digress. Plus-size women still have to fight to be seen as valuable, desirable, and fashionable. And actually, Thank God for the soaring popularity of Lizzo! She really out here doing the damn thang! Periodt.
Okay, y’all to wrap this up. My final discussion point would be the question, what can you do to resolve this? What can we do as a society to resolve this issue of hate toward plus people & BLACK plus people at that? Here’s what I think will help... It’s quite simple. Mind your business and live your life. Don’t contribute to stepping on your plus-size sisters & husky brothers to lift yourself up. Don’t let social media define your greatness and determine the greatness of others. Be the best version of yourself that you can be. Basically, don’t believe the hype. The real tea is, probably about 98 percent of the media images we see — the standards to which we hold our body’s worth — are airbrushed and transformed by the time we see them. So relax. Lead with love and acceptance, be kinder to yourself, and As the famous saying goes, “Be the example you want to see in the world.” Okay?
I love y’all! Have a blessed one. 🤍
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